Category: Music

Snarfle the Garflack, love.

It’s an inside joke. And, yes, I know it’s ‘narfle the Garthok’; whatever, it’s my joke, shut up.

Hopefully I’m able to explain it properly here. It’s the phrase I use to encourage D. Usually toward something that he’s not sure he’s ready to do or isn’t sure he has the ability to do; but keeps saying he wants. And at the risk of sounding sexist; he’s a guy, it usually involves emotions. Garflack is what ever ‘big scary thing’ thing is going on… and usually isn’t such a big scary thing in the end.

It’s come up a bit lately. He’s exploring his poly, more than he has before and it’s raising new feelings, issues, and worries. It’s interesting to be supporting him through it. I’m glad I am and I love seeing him grow and become. You know what I mean?

I’m sort of discovering that I’m really protective of him too. Not to the point of weirdness, but that I’m pretty fucking blunt when I see others in his life pulling shit.  He, of course, gets to make his own choices about what he is doing and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Through out the course of his exploration, we’ve discovered so many new things about us. Individually. As a couple. Our power exchange/Ds.

We’ve discovered we have very minimal rules for each other, though they are important ones. Practice safe sex. Don’t do anything that will harm us. Act, speak and live with honesty, integrity and honor.  That one’s a doozy, but so important. Keep each other informed. And finding where those rules expand or contract depending on the situation.

And there are moments where I have to say it to myself. Facing my attachment to an ex and how it was affecting my emotions still… so difficult. Snarfle the Garflack. Finding out what it really is I am afraid of in opening myself up to ‘new’ people. Snarfle! The unexpected ones, like discovering that I mostly have acquaintances in the community, where I thought I had friends. That was a hard one.

I always try to make sure I’m using it well and saying it from a place of encouragement and love. He is my Sir and my love as well as my partner and I have to make sure I’m respecting all the aspects of our relationship when offering a push.  But I know he appreciates my support, my encouragement and my love.

We have an event coming up in June that we are both looking forward to… we’re on staff this year and with all these new discoveries about each other and ‘us’, we’re looking forward to exploring our boundaries in such an open, loving, energy rich place.  Hopefully our experiences this year will be as good as last, or better!

Hopefully, I’ll be hurting some boys. I am going to snarfle the fuck out of THAT Garflack, as soon as I can.

Of course, sometimes, ‘Snarfle the Garflack’ is code for: ‘Here, take these condoms and go fuck her already. Sheesh.’

I’m serious AND silly. 😛                                     Ooh, now I want to hear ‘Tainted Love’….

Caruso(the song)

Caruso written by Lucio Dalla

Dedicated to Enrico Caruso

Performed by Luciano Pavarotti

English Translation:

Here where the sea sparkles,
and a strong wind blows,
on an old terrace overlooking the gulf of Sorrento,
a man holds a little girl in his arms
after he’s been crying.
He clears his throat and sings the song again.

I love you so much;
so very much, you know.
It’s a bond, now,
you know, that thaws the blood in the veins.

He looked at the lights, out at sea,
and thought about the nights in America.
But they were only the lamps of fishing boats
and the white of wake.
He felt the pain of the music.
He got up from the piano,
but when he saw the moon come out from behind the clouds
death seemed sweeter to him.
He looked into the little girl’s eyes –
those eyes as green as the sea,
then suddenly a tear fell
and he thought he was drowning.

I love you so much;
so very much, you know.
It’s a bond, now,
you know, and it thaws the blood in the veins.

The power of opera!
where every drama is a sham;
where, with a little bit of make-up and mimicry,
you can become someone else.
But two eyes that look at you,
so close and so real,
make you forget the script,
confounding your thoughts.
And so everything became insignificant,
including the nights in America.
You look back and see your life
like the wake [of the boats].
Ah yes! Life is ending,
but he wasn’t worried about it any more.
Instead he felt happy
and began to sing the song again.

I love you so much;
so very much, you know.
It’s a bond, now,
you know, that thaws the blood in the veins.


Natalis: (latin) Sometimes used to signify birthday, sometimes signifies the passage to a better life.

So, since I’m a nerd… On my birthday I want to look back on the “amusing” events for this day in history… Freely admit I’m getting most of this from wikipedia(which we all know is a pure fountain of knowledge). Hey, I’m not writing a research paper here…


1693 – Date traditionally ascribed to Dom Perignon’s invention of Champagne, although he actually did not have anything to do with sparkling wine. Making weddings, holidays, and noses world-wide bubbly!

1873 – Indian Wars: whilst protecting a railroad survey party in Montana, the United States 7th Cavalry, under Lieutenant Colonel George Armstrong Custer clashes for the first time with the Sioux near the Tongue River; only one man on each side is killed. Whilst?! Prithee dear sir, could I bother you for a moment of your time? Splendid! Now die!

1892 – The father and stepmother of Lizzie Borden are found murdered in their Fall River, Massachusetts home. Insert pop-culture reference here. And may I just say, this has done wonders for the hatchet industry.

1936 – Prime Minister of Greece Ioannis Metaxas suspends parliament and the Constitution and establishes the 4th of August Regime. Crap, there’s a regime? I want one! I have now declared this the Août quatrième regime! Glittery tentacle dildos for all!

1958 – The Billboard Hot 100 is founded.  Um… Woo? I am saddened that the song topping this chart the day I was born was Olivia Newton John’s Magic.

2010 – California’s Proposition 8, the ballot initiative prohibiting same-sex marriage passed by the state’s voters in 2008, is overturned by Judge Vaughn Walker in the case Perry v. Schwarzenegger. GOOD.

Famous Births:

1521 – Pope Urban VII (d. 1590) Cool, a pope! For thirteen days… malaria got him. And wait the only memorable thing was the first known public smoking ban? Boo, a pope!

1821 – Louis Vuitton, French designer (d. 1892) Eh. Notable, I suppose I’m just not enough of a brand chaser to care. 😉

1822-1929 – Not many that jumped out at me… various poets, mathematicians, politicians, sports players, actors, actresses etc. Two royal consorts… that was neat. 

1930 – Grand Ayatollah Ali al-Sistani, Iranian Shi’a cleric. I’m not touching the political debate on that one. Eesh.

1955 – Billy Bob Thornton, American actor and writer. Yay!

1961 – Barack Obama, 44th President of the United States. Again political debates… sigh.


Feast of  St. Sithney. The story goes that God asked Sithney to be the patron saint of girls seeking husbands, but Sithney said he would rather be the patron saint of mad dogs and get some rest.

Johnny Cash Day (Arkansas). Don’t get me wrong, I like the Man in Black… but seriously, Arkansas?

Also, it’s National Goat Cheese Month. Pantysgawn is a Welsh goat cheese. *giggles*


And now some music from 1980:

Another Brick in the Wall


Don’t Fall in Love with a Dreamer

Against the Wind

I Can’t Tell You Why

You May Be Right


And some of my favorites from when I was a little girl and dreaming of love… It’s interesting to see how the emotion is the same but the form that works for me has changed so… Yes, yes they are country but that’s what I listened to then… sue me.

Where’ve You Been  I wish I could have found a good video of her Love at the Five and Dime

I’ll Always Come Back  I do love KT Oslin’s music very much. I’d like a nice version of Hold Me. Here’s a live version.

And I could keep squirreling on this for the rest of the day…. So I’ll leave this for now. Happy birthday to me!

Music and Reflection

Generally I have eclectic taste in music (though I am really not a fan of rap or raggae either one). I like metal; Metallica, Megadeth, Slayer… Or metalcore like In This Moment.

Or I tend toward things like Dave Matthews and Live.

I had forgotten how much I love this one:

I’ve developed over the past month or so a strange fascination with Lifehouse. So, I’m going to post some of their videos that are speaking to me right now.

A little Godsmack for variety:

And these, from the moment I heard them, have been for D: